tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post142937754155087652..comments2024-03-18T01:17:19.050-06:00Comments on The Little Things: OmenKristihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07462491427406618145noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post-10802781346366354312009-12-28T16:24:08.205-07:002009-12-28T16:24:08.205-07:00Get meds!!! SERIOUS!!! You can do it!! Are you fly...Get meds!!! SERIOUS!!! You can do it!! Are you flying out with family so that if you are a little out of it, Blaine can have help with the kids from someone? Or is it just your family? Still, get meds!! Also, too bad you don't know who the pilot is going to be, because if you did, you could check into military experience! There are some AMAZING pilots out there, and you could pray like crazy for one of those!! :) I agree with irrational fears. I also hate the ocean. The thought of a cruise, or even getting in the ocean make me creepy crawly!!! YIKES!Melissa Ashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04207130392275410902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post-56080478065693432782009-12-24T09:45:48.708-07:002009-12-24T09:45:48.708-07:00is this the same anxiety that you had over lightni...is this the same anxiety that you had over lightning and bees, cuz i believe i helped you get over both of those. remember me running outside in the rain and you screaming at me to come inside, so maybe i should help you out with this one, my tactics seem to work :) or make them worse, not quite sure. I will run through the airport if you need me to...julianne orthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08638425573447238477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post-50165233755625504492009-12-23T18:57:40.548-07:002009-12-23T18:57:40.548-07:00Okay, I have to admit that I was totally shocked t...Okay, I have to admit that I was totally shocked that all you people have these unrealistic fears. How many of you people are out there? How do you live?! But then I read what Tom and Tami said about being afraid of what's in the ocean and I totally am too. So I'm embarrassed to admit that I'm a freak too.<br /><br />Alex, Steve and I were at the ocean once and I had a panic attack that Alex was in the water. Weird 'cause I grew up in Redondo Beach my whole life and I spent every summer at the beach and in the water without a problem.Karinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00120896349111445074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post-27857324713277805522009-12-23T16:27:37.797-07:002009-12-23T16:27:37.797-07:00As you know, we are going on a cruise soon too. H...As you know, we are going on a cruise soon too. However, I don't fear about flying (and we're going all the way to Porto Rico, no choice but to fly), my fear is the ocean! Being on the ship in the ocean doesn't freak me out too much, but getting in the water with who-knows-what does. I am a true aquafobic when it comes to oceans, lakes or anything else with living things and where you can't see what's below you.Tom and Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13614541133105731242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post-51360201680696632582009-12-23T16:26:14.388-07:002009-12-23T16:26:14.388-07:00Just wanted to let everyone know that I have been ...Just wanted to let everyone know that I have been begging Kristi for weeks to let me order the tickets while they're cheap (Okay, BEGGING is an exaggeration but so was the description of how "scared" I am of checking in and finding the gate so I guess we're even...) Don't worry, she wouldn't let me order the tickets either. She blamed that on her frugal side: "If I let you be in charge of it you'll pay way too much and do something wrong..." <br /><br />Anyway, so you know how the story ends, Kristi today gave me the green light to just make the call and get the tickets ordered. And now it's a done deal. <br /><br />(Lest you think that I am slacking or insensitive of my wife's fear :)Blainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13373959049191954472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post-62929517363595222512009-12-23T16:03:51.034-07:002009-12-23T16:03:51.034-07:00Unless you understand what is going on, you have n...Unless you understand what is going on, you have no chance to remedy it. <br /><br />1.Medication is not effective. <br /><br />2. Hypnotism is “hit or miss”. <br /><br />3. Courses that explain how safe flying is still leave the question of safety up in the air because planes do, though rarely, crash.<br /><br />4. Cognitive therapy does not work for many people because the feelings develop too rapidly to keep the mind clear enough to use the cognitive “tools”. <br /><br />What is needed is an automatic way to control feelings.<br /> <br />We are born with half of the emotion regulation system in place, the half that revs us up. The half that calms us down does not exist at birth. By eighteen months a part of the brain develops that can let the child calm itself. The child memorizes the steps caregivers use to provide calming. If the steps are highly effective, the child can calm itself independently using the steps memorized.<br /><br />Obviously, caregivers – regardless of how much they care – vary in their ability to tune in the child and assure the child effectively. As a result, few of us get an optimal ability to calm ourselves. <br /> <br />During teenage years, we tend to think bad things only happen to others. This youthful optimism gets us by for a few years without excessive anxiety. But as we mature, we realize something can happen to us. We then turn to strategies to keep anxiety when dealing with uncertainty under control. The strategies typically involve control and escape.<br /> <br />Control: when anxiety is not naturally available, we depend on control of situations to avoid anxiety. When driving a car, we believe we can make everything work out alright. Though driving is not as safe as flying, we feel safer because the wheel is in our own, not someone elses, hands. <br /> <br />Escape: if there is a car accident, there may be a chance of surviving. If a plane, people mistakenly believe that if something goes wrong they are doomed. In a plane, if something goes wrong, backup systems are used. Backup systems make flying safer than driving. But these systems are in the cockpit where they seem theoretical. Though backup systems provide greater safety in a plane than is available in a car, the systems are not as real to a passenger as a steering wheel is in the hands of a driver.<br /> <br />Since the backup systems are not concrete enough to make passengers feel safe, many try to escape psychologically by keeping their thoughts elsewhere throughout the flight. If, due to turbulence, the person cannot keep the flight out of mind, there is no way to keep feelings under control. <br /> <br />I need you to understand that the feelings you are troubled by are caused by stress hormones, mainly adrenalin and cortisol. They rev you up. When you get too many “hits” of these stress hormones from too many thoughts, worries, concerns, etc., you get high anxiety or panic. Fortunately, there is a way to control feelings. We prevent the release of adrenalin and cortisol by causing the release of oxytocin. We cause the release of oxytocin by linking each thing that happens on a flight, and each thing you worry about, to the memory of a moment that causes oxytocin to be released.<br /><br />Oxytocin shuts down the amygdala, the part of the brain that triggers the release of the hormones that cause fear. Once the links are established between an oxytocin-producing moment and troublesome moments of flight, high anxiety and panic are automatically controlled. This is an advanced way of controlling the feelings, and it was not possible to do this until research using brain scan technology showed us how the brain works.<br /><br />To establish the links, a person follows step-by-step the linking sequences shown on video available at http://www.fearofflying.com/relief<br /><br />Most people doubt anything will work, but this does, as you can see from the thousands of comments on the SOAR message board.Capt Tom Bunn LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06795997945261649464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post-25922139056576481272009-12-23T13:46:55.467-07:002009-12-23T13:46:55.467-07:00I would be curious to know how old you were when y...I would be curious to know how old you were when you took for first plane flight? I'm been flying for as long as I can remember, so it's almost like it never occurred to me to be worried when I was little, and then there was no obvious time for it to start.<br /><br />But I understand. My weird issues are just less obvious. Like wet cloth. I can handle it if it JUST got wet or it if's coming out of my washing machine. But it takes an inordinate amount of will power for me to touch a cloth that has been wet for a long time or that I didn't witness it getting wet. Things like that... mostly ones that get in the way of me cleaning my house.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15603677261111811688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post-525164926353119432009-12-23T13:10:58.869-07:002009-12-23T13:10:58.869-07:00This sounds like my whole life :) I have learned ...This sounds like my whole life :) I have learned that I need to put the stress on someone else. I say have Blaine do it and you can put your energy into feeling good for the actualy flight. I haven't figured out how to calm myself and it is frustrating to be our of control like that. You could get something like xanex to help, but I wouldn't rely on it all the time. We recently went on a cruise to the Bahamas and the anxiety and stress of it all was so worth it! HOpe you are able to relax on your cruise. Good luck!Mariahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07175679296102835927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post-31781542670750431562009-12-23T12:21:47.746-07:002009-12-23T12:21:47.746-07:00Blayne needs to order the tickets. Soon.Blayne needs to order the tickets. Soon.Earl and Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17394795944881635782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post-67661029111745641922009-12-23T09:54:07.943-07:002009-12-23T09:54:07.943-07:00Wow, your fear must be intense if your frugal natu...Wow, your fear must be intense if your frugal nature doesn't win out in booking airline tickets!<br /><br />Can't someone else book the tickets (aka Blaine), so arrange it so you are on the same flight with the rest of your family?<br /><br />And you should seriously consider getting something from the doc to help you relax- who knows, the increased health risk from high anxiety might be a bigger risk than flying in an airplane!Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13778967532451488984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post-68186456100175799912009-12-23T09:44:25.397-07:002009-12-23T09:44:25.397-07:00Kristy, the fear of flying is common, so don't...Kristy, the fear of flying is common, so don't beat yourself up over it. I used to freak myself out, thinking of all the things that might happen, but over time, it lessened to the point of non-existence. Now I LOVE flying. The sensations during take off and landing, seeing the country in a few hours (albeit, through a small window), and being able to get from one place to another in such a short amount of time.... not that I discount a good road trip.<br /><br />My advice to you: First, Valium. Get a doctor to prescribe something for you that will make you relax. People need to take this stuff, just to get an EEG done. I would be one of those people. I get horribly claustrophobic in tight spots. Anyhow, get something to at least make you not "care" so much.<br /><br />Second, do some research. There is usually a time where missionaries are going to be flying out to their perspective missions. I honestly have heard of people who will only fly when they know missionaries are going to be on board. They feel that the Lord's annointed are going to be protected, so let's hope the rest of the plane is.<br /><br />Other than that, all we can all do is pray for you. ;-)<br /><br />GOOD LUCK!Sean Dahlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03420394321860396959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1361848895302797101.post-56678439684088734142009-12-23T08:58:17.681-07:002009-12-23T08:58:17.681-07:00I have no less than seven extended family members ...I have no less than seven extended family members that feel just as you've described. When I first flew at 15, I felt the same way (I blame brainwashing! but really, it did seem scary...) and then one day, I realized that by feeling that way, I was missing more in real life than all of the horrible things that I was imagining. So now I say, don't sweat it. If something horrible happens, then it happens, and you deal with it. Statistically speaking, if you crash, you will die and then you don't have to worry about doing it ever again.<br />~Jeannie :DJeanniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03031324295360521068noreply@blogger.com